When I know your flaws, and you know mine

A beautiful meditation on love, and the love between Dong Hoon and Ji An from DC Inside.  

When I know your flaws, and you know mine, and what we know becomes connected, your flaws become my pain and mine become yours, it becomes an invaluable, precious love between two people.

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Translated by @justamom and @rellea

We fall in love because of our flaws. When I know your flaws, and you know mine, and what we know becomes connected, your flaws become my pain and mine become yours, it becomes an invaluable, precious love between two people. The kind of love that will never, ever end and can never be severed. That is Dong Hoon and Ji An’s love. This love will most naturally lead one to desire contact with the other person’s body. But this is very different from normal sexual desires. Yes, normal people desire physical contact for various reasons. But why is it not so easy for us to agree to physical contact with the one we love?

When we look at Dong Hoon’s misunderstandings about love, in many cases, they arose from the way Dong Hoon swept his deficiencies aside in his love of Ji An. For Dong Hoon, Ji An is someone who, rather than just wanting to heal his holes (t/n: his depression/ complexes/ personal issues/etc.), hurts for and tries to fill them. Dong Hoon fulfills the same role for Ji An, but the one who puts her whole being into and places everything on the line to do so is Ji An. This is why Dong Hoon is always grateful to her.

When Dong Hoon extends his hand to her at the end and grips her hand tightly, that could very well be the first time he reveals his vulnerability to her.

Rather than saying it is for Ji An, this was probably a reflex born out of his own desire. On the other hand, as she holds his hand, we see in Ji An’s smile some of her desire being fulfilled.

Undeniably, both have come to stand up on their own. Undeniably, both have also come back to each other, never to part again. Will they get married? That’s unknown. Is marriage the greatest expression of love?

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